I believe every baby should be breastfed. It is the most amazing gift you can give yourself and your child. But there are a lot of factors and facets to this and that isn’t what this is about.
This is about bonding.
I have heard or read so many times where women choose to give their baby formula instead of breastfeed because they want the Daddy to be able to bond with baby. Or they introduce bottles of breast milk very early and when mom is right there so that Daddy can bond with baby.
I do not, for one second, believe that unless my husband gives his daughter a bottle that he is not bonding with her and their relationship will suffer. Bonding is not about hours spent feeding a child. People feed babies all the time without having that special connectedness. Today my daughter gave a great example that bonding doesn’t lie in a bottle of milk, of any kind.
My oldest child is 13 1/2 and my youngest is 14 months. Maddie, my 13 yr old is like my second pair of hands. She is so helpful! Since her little sis was very young she would pick her up and cradle her in her arms and say “ba ba ba…..ba ba ba”. I am not sure why, she just started it one day to calm her. And now when I am not available to nurse a crabby, tired or just plain mad Poppy, she will go to her big sister with her arms in the air and say “ba ba ba”. Maddie will scoop her up and oblige in their little ritual, walking her around the house softly saying “ba ba ba”. And Poppy is content.
Bonding happens in the presence of love, commitment and caring, not a bottle.