I am the mother of 4 daughters and no sons so many would deem me unqualified to comment on all things related to parenting boys. To be fair, there are many aspects that I probably can’t relate to. I do, however, run an in-home daycare and my general life is about kids even apart from my work.
I do believe there are differences ingrained in each gender that naturally come through. But I also believe within each gender there are various personalities and quirks that can’t be pinned to one gender or another. I don’t believe in boy toys or girl toys or gender specific color.
All that being said, there is one thing that I hear from parents and grandparents of boys that gets my hackles up. Boys Will Be Boys. I think this phrase started out innocent enough. Little Billy chases Susie with a frog and Granny chuckles, saying, “Boys will be boys!” Fair enough. Though, the adorable little kindergarten girl across the street from me is just as likely to be running around with frogs.
The problem with “Boys Will Be Boys” is it has become an excuse to let your little (or not so little) boy act like a complete Hellion and take zero responsibility for his actions. More and more I see boys hitting, spitting, throwing and smashing toys, trying to kick over trash cans at the park, running wild and loud to the dismay of parents who simply say, “Boys Will Be Boys” as if there is no solution to be had for their horrid behavior because having a penis causes them to act like little demons.
The truth is boys and girls are both capable of acting like well-behaved children or cringe-inducing spawn. It comes down to how you CHOOSE to parent. Yes, some kids are tougher than others to manage and figure out. But they aren’t all boys (believe me, I know). We would all be a lot better off if parents would lose the phrase “Boys Will Be Boys” and start teaching those boys how to behave like decent members of society.