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Don’t Send Your Kid to Preschool, or Do, Whatever.


I don’t send my kids to preschool. It’s the choice we’ve made for our family and it works for us.

Many of my friends send their kids to preschool. It’s the choice they’ve made for their family and it works for them.

And yet somehow we manage to coexists.
I kid. Sort of.

I am a mom of four daughters so I cycle through key life events periodically. One of those life events is preschool. It’s fairly inevitable that as one of my children approaches the age of 3 that at least one person (but most likely more) will ask when and where I will send her for preschool. I’ve encountered looks of disdain, stifled shock and confusion when I say that I don’t send my children. Then comes the question, “Why?”. It’s a legitimate question but over the years I have realized that this is more about the person having an idea that there must be something “wrong” for us to not send them. Money. Job situation. Family issue. Problem child. It never seems a logical reason for me to reply that we just don’t feel that it is necessary for us.
Oh the looks I get.
I have a friend who was so pressured and harassed by family about the future failures of her children should she not send them to preschool that she was quite overwhelmed and stressed by it all. She didn’t WANT to send them. She had no issue with preschool she just didn’t feel the need to send them (or the desire to be a slave to the schedule before real school starts. Amen!). She was literally being told her children wouldn’t get into a good school or get a good job without preschool.

You have GOT to be kidding me.

Children do not need preschool. They don’t. Now I mean a children in general. There are individual kids who I believe DO need preschool. There are also moms I know who send their kids to preschool for their own sanity. More power to you sister! Get the time you need.
I have no issue with anyone sending their kids to preschool. I often am misunderstood in this way. So let me say that again.
I do NOT have a problem with preschool or anyone who sends their kid there.
But I do not for one minute believe that children are going to languish in the pits of the school system as Juniors in high school because they never went to preschool. That. Is. Absurd.
My second daughter started kindergarten 6 weeks after turning 5. She never went to preschool. By first grade she had gone through all of the sight word lists available (they go through third grade).
My 3rd daughter is in kindergarten now. They are to know 50 sight words by May. That is list one and two. This is her assessment as of this week (in March).

Sight Words

No preschool for her either.

Now, let me state that I am NOT sitting here saying, “Look at my genius kids. They don’t need no stinking’ preschool! I produce brilliant offspring.”

I am simply saying that children do not NEED preschool to get by, succeed or even excel.

So don’t send your kid to preschool. Or do send your kid to preschool. Do whatever works for you. Your kids going to be just fine.


Author: leangreenmommy

Hi, I'm Sonia! I'm the mom of 4 wonderful daughters and wife to one amazing man, trying to live a healthier life, care for the earth and just survive the day. When I'm not cooking up new recipes in the kitchen or shuttling kids to soccer, volleyball and lacrosse I run an in-home daycare and am a freelance writer.

4 thoughts on “Don’t Send Your Kid to Preschool, or Do, Whatever.

  1. I think it’s sad that preschool gets pushed so hard as something everyone needs to do. I loved having my kids with me during those years, and they loved being home with me! (And still do now because I homeschool, but that’s another can of worms).

  2. What about the social aspect? That’s why children go to preschool, to learn how to problem solve and share and use words properly an effectively, so when they do go to Kindergarten, those concepts are already in place so they can succeed academically.

    • If a child is fairly isolated and gets no time with other children and adults, then they may actually NEED preschool for that social aspect. But if kids are playing with neighborhood friends, visiting relatives, going to Sunday school, etc. Well, they likely know how to interact with others. If a parent is home with them they learn a lot about how to problem solve and use their language from daily interactions. If they are in a daycare setting they learn it there as well. Children learn more from daily life than we realize.

      • All that being said, there ARE kids who have all of that interaction and still may need preschool. I had one in my daycare that I felt would really benefit from it socially. That just needs to be determined on an individual basis.

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